Session #11: Resilience, Perseverance & Grit


 

Habit Check In

Each week we will check in on the daily habit you have set for yourself. What positive experience have you had with your habit this week?

 

Resilience, Perseverance & Grit

As we get closer to the end of the program, it’s important that we spend time assessing grit. There are lots of ways we talk about the concept of grit, so let’s break down all those terms.

  • Resilience is the ability to bounce back after adversity or disappointment, specifically being able to manage and adapt to sources of stress or adversity.
  • Perseverance tends to be associated with steadfastness on mastering skills or completing a task. It is having a commitment to learning.
  • Grit is defined as the tendency to sustain interest and effort towards long term goals. It is associated with self-control and deferring short term gratification.

Instead of focusing on grit as “being in the trenches,” move your priority toward continual progress – despite any barriers in your way. Yes, there will be hard moments, but we don’t need to make the easy moments difficult as well in order to see results.  You will see that each of these definitions focus on continued growth over time, not survival of the fittest.

This is great news for all of us! It means that practicing mental toughness and increasing our grit is within the realm of possibilities. Mental toughness is built through small wins, day after day – which is exactly what we’ve been doing. You’re already on your way to building grit!

This is going to be the most import factor of your success as you transition through different phases in your life. Things will get hard – or too easy! – and throw you off your game. When this happens, don’t throw everything out the window and start fresh. Simply go back to the small wins that built your mental toughness in the first place.

Deciphering Your Cycle

Instead of looking forward to prepare for hard times, let’s look back and see what we default to. I’d like you to think about some time in your life when you’ve felt lost or off track. There are two important aspects to decipher about your struggle:

1) What preceded your transition to feeling lost?

Was it the result of one particular incident (losing your job, getting injured, the death of a family member) or was it a slow transition over time? This will tell you a lot about what your default cycle is for ups and downs in your life so that you can recognize them as they happen in the future.

2) What choice did you make when you realized you were lost?

Did you immediately re-calibrate back to the work you were doing before you got lost? Or did you decide on a new path for success? If you tend to start fresh each time you get lost, it’s helpful to know that’s what you will default to. Although this sparks your motivation, it’s much less likely to lead to success.

Once you know what your default cycle is, you can begin to recognize it as it happens in the future. When you see this happen again (because it will!) take the time to notice your cycle and make the best decision to move you forward.

You can find this activity here.

 

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